What? Yes, OK I am moving off my normal path today of interviewing Moms-In-Business. Why? Well, a couple of reasons:
1. As you read this, I am up in Great Northern Man Cave, MN (deer camp) hanging with Daddy and enjoying being “unplugged” for a few days.(truth be told, I hate being “unplugged”. But up there, I am just grateful there’s a flushing toilet.)
2. Adoption is something VERY near and dear to my heart, and I want everyone to know a little about National Adoption Month.
First, a little history.The first major effort to promote awareness of the need for adoptive families for children in the foster care system occurred in Massachusetts. In 1976, then-Governor Mike Dukakis proclaimed Adoption Week. The idea grew in popularity and spread throughout the nation. President Gerald Ford made the first National Adoption Week proclamation, and in 1990, the week was expanded to a month due to the number of states participating and the number of events. Pretty cool, eh?
The second I starting writing this post, I knew there was no way I could cover everything I want to cover in one post. So watch out my friends, Becky’s on her soapbox (again). We may have to do a “series” this month. So let’s start with Our Story.
Back in 2001, hubs and I were a married couple anxious to start a family. Wouldntcha know, we couldn’t. Now I won’t go into long, laborious descriptions of medical problems because honestly, we have no clue. “Unexplained Infertility” equals two pissed off, frustrated people. Seven Pretty Damn Yucky Years later, we were blessed with an event I can only describe as God’s Miracle. This Miracle came to us via a friend who knew of a BirthMom. Long-story-short (I llovveeee telling this story-this may have to be part of the series) we met our amazing BirthMom and her equally amazing family. To this day I am blown away by her level-headedness, courage, and unselfishness. She will always be my Hero for those reasons. We met, we connected, we moved forward with the tedious Adoption Process. Twenty-six days later, we were parents to a chubby, pink (early!) bundle of joy we named Jake. He rocks. Our sweet baby is now a big, stinky kid who will be 8 soon. We love him immensely and can’t imagine life without him.
THERE. That’s our story. A pretty dang kick-butt one too if-I-do-say-so-myself.
So my question I would like to ask is…what do you want to know about adoption? Ask me anything. Seriously. I will answer what I can and if I don’t know, I’ll point you in a direction to get some answers.
Here’s a couple of FAQ’s (from my point of view) on Adoption:
1. Was it scary to adopt? YUP, but totally worth it.
2. Does Jake know he’s adopted? Yes. Adoption is one of those concepts that they can’t quite get their head around until they are about 5. We are very matter-o-fact about it. Our motto is “we don’t hide the fact Jake is adopted, but we don’t make an issue out of it either.” He’s our kid. PERIOD.
3. Why did his BirthMom “give him up?” OK, here’s a hot button for me. RAL (respectful adoption language)is HUGE in my world. Jake was “placed” by his BirthMom. She was young and knew it just wasn’t her time to be a parent. Her courage allowed our dream of being parents to come true. I am a big advocate for Respectful Adoption Language, so watch out. Warning: if you ever ask “why didn’t his Mom want him?” I will politely correction you two-fold ( I am his Mom, and Birthmom “placed” him). First correction is free. Second time, I will make your ears bleed. Sorry. I am a freak like that.
I think at that, I will end this post. Like I said, I could go on for days on this topics. So I will leave you with the encouragement to read about adoption, talk to adoptive parents, and remain respectful always of the choice of adoption. I’d like to yap more on this subject..but we will see what you, my beloved readers would like to see. Comment here, or shoot me an email at email@example.com
Free adoption book http://www.laurachristianson.com/laura/national-adoption-month-get-free-copies-of-the-adoption-network-book/
A cool adoption blog http://our-journey-to-parenthood.blogspot.com/